Romance is a funny thing. Christian romance can be even funnier. Questions about ‘how far is too far’ and ‘is this (historically) appropriate’ and even ‘should Christians read fiction’ crop up every now and again, making this author pause, reflect—and keep on writing.
I write Christian romance. I hope my stories entertain, and that people enjoy the historical details and the elements of romance I include. Most of all I hope people respond to the faith message. Because I believe ‘Christian’ and ‘romance’ aren’t mutually exclusive, and that Christian romance should be the epitome of romance stories.
The Bible is full of romance, with stories of marriages, stories of wooing. God Himself is depicted as a bridegroom, longing for His bride (the church). Here in Australia I grew up singing about Jesus, the ‘Lover of My Soul.’ God is into love. Hello, God IS love!
But more than the thudding hearts and scorching kisses we so often see portrayed in today’s world, I enjoy (and endeavor to write) stories that show the reality of love. The practicing of forgiveness. The need for patience. Choosing to trust and not fear. Sacrificing selfish ambitions. These are the godly components for love, aspects of the fruit of the Holy Spirit, and those qualities often read at weddings from 1 Corinthians 13. These are the real drivers of ‘true love,’ far more than how passionate a kiss might be.
Don’t get me wrong. I’ve been married for over 21 years now, and with four children, I believe in passion :) . But more important than that, our marriage has meant learning to love in a way that means swallowing pride, keeping anger checked, learning to compromise. My husband and I are definitely not perfect, we’re still learning what real love looks like.
In this Instagram-perfect, happiness-hungry, disposable world such things can seem peculiar. In a world of TV bachelors and ‘social experiment marriages’ and celebrity divorce, people who live promises of ‘until death do us part’ can seem extreme. Our world needs stories that reflect God’s ways, that hint of the Divine Romance, and show God’s principles, principles that may at first seem counter-intuitive, but ultimately lead to peace and joy and hope.
I love how God can use fiction to draw people to His truth, how these godly principles can make people pause, reflect, and maybe even repent. My books have been called ‘defiantly Christian,’ so it surprises me when non-Christian friends tell me they have enjoyed my novels. I hope (and pray) that God will continue to use my fictional romances to wash away the dirt of the world and help people see Him just a little bit more. Not that I have all the answers, but I know that God does.
Romance might be a funny thing, something that evokes a wide range of responses from Christians and not-yet Christians, but I think it’s wonderful that God can use our stories to woo readers to Himself. I pray my readers may find the ultimate Love of their life, the Lover of their soul, the One who demonstrates what true love looks and feels and sounds like, the One whose story never ends, and in whom is found the ultimate happily-ever-after.
Carolyn Miller lives in the beautiful Southern Highlands of New South Wales, Australia, with her husband and four children. Together with her husband she has pastored a church for ten years, and worked part-time as a public high school English and Learning and Support teacher. Carolyn holds a BA in English Literature, and loves drawing readers into fictional worlds that show the truth of God’s grace in our lives. Visit her website for more information.
Carolyn’s books, The Making of Mrs. Hale (a Gold Star review) and A Hero for Miss Hatherleigh, are featured in the Launch & Spring issues of Hope By The Book magazine.